Today’s blog is by Jeannette Seibly, author of The Secret to Selling Yourself Anytime, Anywhere-Start Bragging!
Do You Want to Succeed and Make a Lot of Money?
Then, Be Coachable!
“The paradox is that the very things that hold us back are the reasons we need a coach in the first place.” -Seth Godin
Successful leaders and future leaders have coaches! So do authors. Their willingness to be coachable allows them to develop the skills to succeed by being coachable.
There are many things in business and in life that you don’t know that you don’t know. Being coachable uncovers the blind spots that get in your way of receiving promotions and special assignments. Making lots of money and achieving huge goals. And, being an author that others want to read and follow.
What Does Being Coachable Mean?
“Coachability is not a technical skill or an inherent ability. It is a mental attitude.” It reflects your ability to ask for feedback, listen, and make appropriate changes. It is also a reflection of your emotional ability or emotional intelligence (EQ) to learn from constructive criticism. (mvorganizing.org)
What Does Being Uncoachable Look Like?
When someone is uncoachable, they often will roll their eyes, take things personally, and have a myriad of excuses. They also misinterpret comments and resist taking the right action. Being uncoachable reflects the fear of having others think of you as “weak.” And, being uncoachable can reflect your unwillingness to stretch outside of your comfort zones.One entrepreneur loved creating new products and was very talented. He dreamed of resigning from the day job he hated. The problem was, he didn’t want to focus on the business requirements to create a foundation for growth. As a result, he ignored the coach and did things his way. He’s still dreaming about one day being a successful business owner and giving up his hated day job…all as a result of being uncoachable.
Why Do Authors Fail to Seek Coaching?
Successful athletes, musicians, leaders, and yes … authors … agree coaching is a must. But they fail to work through the resistance that others as well as themselves put up as barriers. Organizations end up firing poor performers, and 90% of the time, it’s due to poor interpersonal skills because they are not coachable.
How Can You Improve Your Coachability?
- Seek Out Feedback. Ask team members, customers, and your boss for feedback. “What’s one thing that would help me improve …” (e.g., interactions with others, project results, ability to work well with others, etc.). Listen and be respectful, especially if the feedback isn’t what you want to hear. Don’t forget to say thank you!
- Be Open to Learning. You can learn something from anyone! While you may selectively seek out people more experienced than you, be open to hearing from co-workers and direct reports too. Their insights can be invaluable.
- Be Willing to Stretch Beyond Your Comfort Zones. We all love our comfort zones. But successful leaders and future leaders know they must move beyond these confining spaces! When you’ve already tried something that didn’t work or don’t feel comfortable with the recommendation, ask clarifying questions. “I tried this approach and it didn’t work for me. What do you believe is missing?” Listen and don’t debate. This helps you discover your blind spots and how to overcome them.
- Become Self-aware by Being Present. Self-awareness is critical to your success. It requires being present during ALL interactions. This means setting aside thoughts and distractions while listening and learning. During the process, you will discover insights between goals and the actions you are taking (or not taking) to achieve them.
- Make Positive Behavior and Attitude Changes by Doing the Right Work. Talking the talk won’t make a difference. If you don’t know what the right work is, ask an experienced coach and use a qualified job fit assessment to guide you through the steps required. Then, immediately take the first step!
- Check Your Ego at the Door! Even if you believe your results are the best they can be, be willing to accept criticism, especially around tough issues. It’s a golden opportunity to learn from your successes and If you are unclear about what the issue is, deep dive by asking clarifying questions. Be aware of your tone of voice and other non-verbal communication (e.g., rolling your eyes). Otherwise, you can shut down the opportunity to receive invaluable feedback and have amazing breakthroughs.
- Hire the Right Coach. Successful leaders and future leaders have coaches. They seek out and find the right coach that can guide them to achieve what they really really really Also, select a coach that has a coach too! Yes, coaches need to be coachable, too!
Whether you are an entrepreneur, author, or boss, being coachable makes a difference.
©Jeannette Seibly, 2021 All Rights Reserved
Jeannette Seibly is The Leadership Results Coach. She has been an award-winning executive coach, management consultant, and keynote speaker for over 28 years. Her focus is getting leaders and their teams unstuck and able to achieve dynamic results. Contact Jeannette for a confidential conversation.
A note from Jeannette about the lesson we all need to learn: “Many of us have the assumption that someday life will be easy. We will coast along effortlessly and will be successful. … But this assumption that it gets easier is not true. It is never true because you change, the organization changes and the business environment is constantly evolving. A successful life means constant change and continuous learning. So set a goal now to remain coachable throughout your career.” (Forbes)
Not sure where to begin … contact me for a confidential conversation.
Dr. Judith Briles is a book publishing expert and coach. She empowers authors and works directly with authors who want to be seriously successful and has been writing about and conducting workshops on publishing since the ’80s. Judith is the author of 37 books including Author YOU: Creating and Building Your Author and Book Platforms, Snappy Sassy Salty: Wise Words for Authors and Writers, and How to Create a $1,000,000 Speech. Her personal memoir When God Says NO-Revealing the YES When Adversity and Loss Are Present is a #1 bestseller on Amazon. Collectively, her books have earned over 45 book awards. Judith speaks throughout the year at publishing conferences.
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